The HAND library is a great resource, with hundreds of titles that you'll never find in a bookshop or public library. Unfortunately, miscarriage, stillbirth, and death of an infant aren't talked or written about in society at large, but HAND has the books by people who have been there. They also have great ideas and information on how memorialize your baby and express your grief -- ideas I never would have come up with on my own. The sooner you contact HAND, the sooner you can start to heal."

"We would not have been able to endure the lonely months after we lost our son without the support, love and guidance of HAND."

"On January 24, 1998, we lost our beautiful twins Merleissa and Vincent.

The weeks following that sad day were feelings of intense grief and emptiness. The hospital where our children were born had referred us to HAND.

There we were able to start our healing. The people we met truly understood our grief, as they too had lost a child.

At the meetings we were able to share our thoughts, able to cry and sometimes even laugh.

Today we can say it's been 2 years since that 'bittersweet' day...sweet because on that day we got to hold and kiss our daughter and son, bitter because we had to let them go.

We are not the same people we were prior to January 24, 1998. Our children changed our lives forever.

We still attend meetings when we feel that need. We are forever grateful for the kind and wonderful volunteers at HAND. They do such a great service."

"My husband and I were devastated when we lost our first child to a first trimester miscarriage. Although friends and family were sympathetic, most people did not realize the magnitude of our grief. A few months after the miscarriage, I called HAND and my husband and I started attending the meetings. I'm so glad we did! In the HAND meetings, we found acceptance and understanding. Looking back, I realize that contacting HAND was the first step towards healing."